Ashley & Carlie conclude their teaching series with Living a Legacy Part 4.

In this episode, explore practical characteristics of a good mentee and learn how to find a good mentor. Dive into God’s Word and learn from some of the most powerful friendships in scripture. Jesus with His disciples, Elijah and Elisha, Paul and Timothy, Ruth and Naomi, just to name a few! Make a greater impact and live on purpose!

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Prominent scriptures explored in Living a Legacy Part 4 include: 1 Peter 5:1-5, Proverbs 22:6, and Psalm 145:4.


Carlie: Hey, thanks for joining us. Today, we’re going to be carrying on our series of Living a Legacy, looking at good characteristics of a mentee and how to find a mentor.

Announcer: Why live a normal life when you could be living the abundant life? Welcome to The Abundant Life Program, with Ashley and Carlie Terradez.

Ashley: Hello. Welcome to The Abundant Life. We’re so glad you’ve joined us today, here in the lounge and [inaudible], we’re talking about living a legacy today. This has been part of a series we’ve been teaching on living a legacy, how to live a legacy.

It doesn’t matter how old or young you are, you can be living a legacy. You can actually be pouring into people, showing people the goodness of God, pouring into people the love of God, or you can be receiving from people.

People are pointing to us and we’re receiving good mentorship from people. That’s what we look at. We looked at Paul and Timothy and the example there about how Paul poured into Timothy. We looked at [Elisha] and [Elijah] and how Elijah poured into Elisha. Today, what we’re going to look at, we’ve looked at characteristics of mentorship, a mentor, the characters of a good mentor.

But, today what we’re looking at is the characteristics of a good mentee. Yes, that is the right word. Mentee. I looked it up. I checked it out. Mentee. Okay. That means one who is mentored.

Carlie: Amen.

Ashley: The one who’s receiving. So, maybe we could call it a spiritual father and a spiritual son or a spiritual mother and a spiritual daughter. But, a mentee. What’s the good characteristics for a mentee?

Yeah, it doesn’t matter how old you are. You can still be receiving from people and you can still be pouring into people. We can still have that attitude of learning, however old we are. We all really want to be good mentees. Ultimately, in the Lord [inaudible] we get everything we need from the Lord, from the word of God, from the Holy spirit.

He’s our teacher, he’s our ultimate father. He uses other people to pour into us. He uses other people to train us in discipleship, and this is the way Jesus did it. God sent Jesus and Jesus trained and discipled and mentored his 12 disciples. Then, those disciples went and spread the gospel around the world.

Carlie: [crosstalk] legacy.

Ashley: That’s legacy. Living a legacy. So, today we’re looking at characteristics of a mentee. What does it mean to be… What characters of a good mentee, someone who’s ready to receive a spiritual sound. So, a few things. The first one we got is if you want to receive, if you want to be a good mentee, be ready to follow, be ready to follow. It’s good to follow people. It’s good. In actual fact, true leadership is really followship.

Carlie: Yep.

Ashley: Followship, being ready to for the best leaders they know are those that are able to follow really well.

They’re good followers. You start off, most of the time in life, you start off following other people or serving other people, following. The characters of… When Jesus found his disciples, he told them, he gave him a challenge, follow me. Again, [inaudible] even though they’re in the middle of things, they were in the middle of a busy work schedule. They were fishing. They were tax collect and doing all these things. He said, follow me. They followed him. So, being ready to follow. In first Corinthians 11:1, this is one of our key scriptures on this series. First Corinthians 11:1, the apostle Paul says here, follow me as I follow Christ. Some translations say imitate me as I imitate Christ, but being ready to follow. A good mentee is ready to follow.

Carlie: Amen.

Ashley: [crosstalk] To follow their mentor. We’ve got [inaudible] of scripture from the Book of Ruth. I love the Book of Ruth and [inaudible] you want to read this scripture here, from Ruth [crosstalk]?

Carlie: This is Ruth 1:15 and 16 [inaudible] And she said that…

Ashley: Who is she? This is Naomi speaking to… Ruth speaking to [inaudible] Naomi, right?

Carlie: And she said, look, your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and to her gods; return after your sister-in-law. But Ruth said, and treat me not to leave you or turn back from following after you for wherever you go, I will go. And wherever you lodge, I will lodge. Your people should be my people and your God will be my God.

Ashley: Amen, that’s a great statement. This is Ruth talking to Naomi. And saying, now I want to follow you.

Carlie: And this is [crosstalk] this is a real testament to that mentee mentor relationship. Ruth and Naomi were obviously related and she’s mother-in-law, daughter-in-law here. Okay? But, she had the opportunity after the husband had died to go back to her own land. She was in a foreign land with somebody who wasn’t her blood relative, but there was such an honoring there at that relationship, even though she had the opportunity to leave, she decided to stay and potentially, Naomi could have gone and found herself another husband and moved on and had children and all different things. But, she decided to stay and honor the relationship. She valued so much the relationship.

Ashley: [inaudible].

Carlie: Thank you. The relationship she had with her mother-in-law.

Ashley: Yeah. Yeah.

Carlie: That’s so powerful. Isn’t it?

Ashley: It really is. Yeah. Ruth could’ve moved on and she [inaudible]. In the previous episode, we looked at how a good mentor resists and Naomi resisted a little bit. She said, no, you go, you to your sister-in-law’s. Go and find… Go back to your homeland. But Ruth said, no, I want to follow you. It’s interesting how that she said, go back and follow after them and their Gods. And she said, no I want to follow after you and your God. Naomi modeled to her a godly relationship. Ruth was intrigued by that and a lot of the times a mentor is going to show you a godly way. So, a good mentee is willing to follow. They want to follow. Listen, this is… Obviously, this is a great example how Ruth said, wherever you go, I’m going to go.

Wherever you lodge, where you stay, I’m going to stay.

Carlie: It wasn’t just lip service.

Ashley: Well, this is what I was going to say. If you’re a pastor out there and you have a lot of pastors watching our program, all around the world, we love pastors. We love the local church. If you’re a pastor, you know that if someone comes up to you and says, pastor, I’m with you, wherever you go, I’m going to go, wherever you stay, I’m going to stay on with you for life. That’s like a red flag. Usually, the people that say it, next week they’re gone. A few weeks later, they’re gone.

Carlie: Right.

Ashley: Usually, it’s the fruit. Jesus said, by their fruit, you should know him. Usually, if you feel really drawn in, I’m going to stay with this person for life. You don’t have to tell them right away, let your actions speak.

You know what? Just go and serve them. But, follow them. Followship is so important and that’s not even a real word, but followship is so important. It’s more important than leadership. When you… Good leaders will follow. So, be ready to follow. A good mentee is ready to follow and we’re not talking about just blindly following. We’re not talking about blindly following someone down the wrong direction, for instance. If you’re following someone they should be godly. They should be going after the Lord. They should be making godly decisions and it should be what God’s told you to do.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: Don’t blind follow.

Carlie: Yeah. This is a really important point, but leadership begins with followship.

Ashley: Yeah.

Carlie: Leaders are made from good followers. I remember our children are really, they’re quite strong-willed. They’re quite opinionated, aren’t they?

Ashley: Yes.

Carlie: I blame the gene pool. Okay.

Ashley: [crosstalk] from their mother.

Carlie: But, I remember when our kids were little, really looking at other families and it looked like they had it all together and they were so perfect. They were so talented and they were just like their parents. I looked at our band, our tribe, I’m like, these kids are… They’re so strong-willed, they’re so opinionated. I mean, Lord, what is it? What… Why is it that our children have been entrusted to us? What is it in us that you want us to train our kids in? I really wanted to understand this. He said, I want you to show them leadership, teach them how to be leaders.

When the Lord showed me that, it really set me free because when we see the things in our kids and we understand the heart of God and see a glimpse of their future, it’ll help us to get past the, “oh, you’re just being naughty” phase.

Ashley: Right.

Carlie: Right. There’s a reason why God made them the way they did. But, one of the things that we would say to our kids a lot when they were younger, especially our youngest, I don’t know whether it’s a youngest thing. [inaudible] more strong-willed even than the boys, but it’s like you’re a leader and that’s why you want to get in there. People think you’re bossy and… It’s in your nature to lead, but if you want to be a good leader, you have to be a good follower.

Ashley: Got to learn how to follow.

Carlie: It’s so true. Jesus entrusted to his disciples, the church, right? To lead the world in the Kingdom of God. But, before they had that opportunity, he said, follow me.

Ashley: Amen.

Carlie: If we want to be good leaders, the best leaders are the best followers.

Ashley: Amen. So true. So true. So, we’re looking at good characteristics of a mentee. The second one we’ve got here is being ready to serve, being ready to serve. This falls in line with following, because really, if you’re going to follow someone, you’re going to end up serving them. That’s what, that’s part of following them and serving them. But, being ready to serve. Second Kings three, we look… Elijah and Elisha is a great example of mentioning. What was known of Elisha, this is, I believe… Jehoshaphat…

Carlie: Jehoshaphat.

Ashley: Jehoshaphat, thank you. Jehoshaphat, the King, was talking about Elisha and we’ve got the scripture there. We’re talking about, is it second Kings three [inaudible] got that scripture?

Carlie: Yeah. It says, but Jehoshaphat said, is there no prophet of the Lord here, that we may inquire of the Lord by him? So, one of the servants of the King of Israel answered and said, Elisha, the son of Shaphat is here, who poured water on the hands of Elijah.

Ashley: So, Elisha was known as the one that served Elijah. Sometimes we think, if we’re going to serve, we’re going to get overlooked. Now, I’m telling you, promotion comes from the Lord.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: Promotion comes [inaudible] and it takes faith to serve. It really does because if you’re serving, you’re humbling yourself, you’re saying I’m going to serve, I’m going to get down and whatever they need me to do, I’m going to go and do that thing. It might be unglamorous. It might not be recognized. People might… When you serve, don’t… Here’s one of the mistakes people make, as well. They’re going to serve, but they’re serving, so people can see them serve.

Carlie: [crosstalk] Is everyone looking at what I’m doing over [crosstalk].

Ashley: I’m putting chairs out, in the church, here. Look, I’m put… Oh yeah, that was… I cleaned the bathrooms yesterday and I did this. Don’t serve like that. Don’t be self serving servant. Be a servant that’s there because you want to bless the church or bless the mentor or bless whoever you’re serving and serve with a clean heart. Elisha served Elijah and guess what happened? He was promoted. Promotion comes from the Lord. It doesn’t come from the East, South or West. It comes with the North, basically, from the Lord.

Carlie: [crosstalk] You’re serving will set you apart.

Ashley: Amen. He exalts the humble and makes low the proud. So, when you serve, when you serve someone else, I’m telling you, you’re setting yourself up for promotion because it’s God’s way of doing things. Most things in the Kingdom of God work opposite to our natural thinking. So, when we serve, we’re more likely to be promoted. So, serve…

Carlie: [crosstalk] be the leader of all, you got to be the servant of all.

Ashley: Amen. That’s right. The greatest leader is the greatest servants. The first shall be last. So, serve and don’t be afraid of serving. Don’t be afraid… Whatever the time in life you’re in, you can always say, if you don’t know what to do… People say, we don’t know what to do. They write in, or they call and they say, I don’t know what to do know.

Carlie: [crosstalk] you mean people that are looking for like purpose [crosstalk]

Ashley: Yeah, purpose and ministry. Go and serve another ministry, go and serve another ministry. We spent 12 years serving another man’s ministry and we loved it. In fact, we never did it thinking we’re going to get our own ministry. We had no intention of our own ministry, but after 12 years of serving another man’s ministry, it was like, it’s time. God showed us. God led us into our own ministry.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: But, it’s amazing how many people just want to go straight from a word from God. In fact, King David, think about this. King David was anointed King, so Samuel anointed him King and what happened then, he didn’t ride with Samuel back to the palace and…

Carlie: He went back to the sheep.

Ashley: He went back to the pastor and looked after the… Pasture.

Carlie: Pasture, mm-hmm (affirmative).

Ashley: [inaudible] good, before you can be a pastor, you got to spend some time [crosstalk].

Carlie: In the pasture.

Ashley: Cheesy. But anyway, so he went back to the pasture and looked after the sheep.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: That’s not very kingly. He was, God gave him a word, said he was going to be King. We end up in the, looking after sheep. Wasn’t his time yet. He had to serve for a while first. So, God may have told you, I believe there’s lots of people watching. God’s given you a word. God’s given you a purpose. He’s given you a vision. He’s given you a passion for something. But, I believe it’s time to serve. I believe most of the time we serve… Well, all the time we serve first, before we are released into our own.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: I believe it was Luke:16 that says, who will give you your own, if you’re not being faithful in another man’s? It’s important for us to serve someone else’s vision, serve someone else’s ministry. So, even at work, the world understands this, with apprenticeship and things like that. You help… You’re the plumber’s mate or the electricians where they call them here, the handyman and you help someone else before you get to actually do that yourself.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: So, this is a principle we need to understand. Serving, being ready to serve is so important. Praise God. So, I want to recommend serving. We still serve wherever we can, but serving is such an [crosstalk].

Carlie: [crosstalk] experience in…

Ashley: Joseph did it. God gave Joseph a very clear word. Guess what he did? He ended up serving. Some of it was involuntary, right? He served in [Potiphar’s] house. Then, he served in the prison, before he got to serve in the palace. There’s so many examples of this. In fact, nearly every biblical character, every biblical hero you look at, they had their time of serving before God promoted them into ministry.

Carlie: I think that honestly that’s because promotion comes from the Lord and he resists the proud, but he exalts the humble. When we submit, when we humble ourselves to be a mentee under somebody, we’re coming under an authority and literally humbling ourselves. So, that lines up perfectly for promotion.

Ashley: Amen. It really does. It’s a spiritual truth and our flesh doesn’t like it often. I had a guy come to me the other day. He said, I’ve got my own ministry, how comes God isn’t promoting my ministry, like he’s promoted your ministry?

Carlie: Because it’s your ministry, not God’s ministry.

Ashley: The apostle Paul said, I talk like a fool now. So, I’m going to look like a full now, but I’m boasting on Jesus. I’m not boasting on us. I’m boasting on Jesus. We’ve had this ministry run in a very short time and God has supernaturally promoted us.

Carlie: We aren’t that smart.

Ashley: We really aren’t that smart.

Carlie: … to make that happen, trust me.

Ashley: This is a thank you to the partners at Terradez Ministry, as well. If you are a partner of Terradez Ministries, I want you to know that this television program you’re watching now goes out to over 350 million households around the world. We’re talking Africa…

Carlie: That’s a lot of people.

Ashley: North America. Amen. Me and you travel full time and we get on… I mean, so many planes it’s ridiculous. I’ve been… This is… Often, nearly a hundred planes a year. We go and we do these things. The amount of partners we have, the amount of people that are feeding off this ministry is supernatural. God has done this. He said, work of God. But, I believe a lot of it happened because we had our hearts in serving someone else. We wasn’t after this for ourselves. We was after trying to help someone else first. That’s why I think, that’s why it’s happened this way.

Carlie: I like to think of it this way, big Oak trees. You look at a massive Oak tree and you see, what an amazing tree that’s grown above ground. Look how large. Look how expansive it is. [inaudible] nurtures and takes care of the animals and things that live in it. That’s awesome, but what you don’t see is the time it took to put roots down below the surface.

Ashley: [inaudible] Oak tree, the roots as big below the surface…

Carlie: Much, much bigger below the surface [crosstalk].

Ashley: [crosstalk] A lot of roots [inaudible].

Carlie: So, when we’re serving, when we submitted in a mentor, mentee relationship, what we’re doing is putting down roots, putting down roots. So, we’re becoming more stable, more grounded, more rooted, more experienced. Through that process, it means that when God, when the time comes for promotion, your growth season will be a lot faster and a lot easier because you’ve got the root system to support it.

Ashley: Amen, really [inaudible]. You know what? We were halfway through this teaching on the characteristics of a good mentee. We want to pray for you, [inaudible] minister to you. [inaudible] going to finish this teaching, but we’ve got some exciting news we want to share with you. This is going to empower you in the promises of God.

Carlie: God has chosen you. In the word says, he’s ordained you. He set you apart that you might bear fruit and that your fruit might remain. He wants you to make a lasting impact in this world. He wants you to live legendary.

Ashley: Amen. So, go to the website, forward slash legendary, and check out this month’s growth track. It’s going to really help you praise God.

Carlie: In these short television programs, we really don’t have enough time to be able to go into depth on everything that God has for you on this subject of living legendary. So we have more information, more teaching resources available to you on our website, via these growth tracks.

Ashley: Amen, we’ve got lots of free teachings. You can get product coupons. You can sign up and get devotionals on this subject. So, go to our website forward slash legendary [inaudible] you want to be a part of this. It’s awesome. [inaudible] we’re looking at living a life of legacy and Carlie, you’ve got a testimony you want to share?

Carlie: Yeah. This is from Debbie. She shared it with us on Facebook and she says, I was out of work for three months. That’s a long time. God provided for me for the whole time. I asked for prayer. I think it was through the social media. I asked for prayer about finding a job on power hour. That’s on our Wednesday power hour. She said, I found a job [inaudible], I got the first shift. It’s only 10 minutes away from me. Thank you for all your prayers. Amen. We’ve had a lot of people recently, with just answered prayers in regards to finding jobs [crosstalk].

Ashley: They really have, that’s right. So, you can contact our ministry. Thank you, Debbie, for writing in that’s encouraging. I’m sure that’s going to encourage other people. If you’re looking for work, you know what? God’s going to give you favor, as you look for work, as you go for those interviews, as you fill out those applications, I speak favor over you and Debbie, thank you for writing in [inaudible] about that. She heard it on the power hour, so you can join us on power hour. We have all our details on our website, That’s We want to connect with you. We have so many free resources. In so many ways, we want to connect with you. Praise God. So, you can write us your testimonies, let us know your questions and we’ll try and read them out here, on the air. Praise the Lord. On air. So, at the moment, we’re looking at leaving a legacy… Or living a legacy.

Carlie: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Ashley: Most people’s say leaving legacy [crosstalk].

Carlie: If you live a legacy, you will leave a legacy.

Ashley: If you live a legacy, you’re going to leave a legacy. I’m telling you. So, we’re looking at how to live a legacy, how to actually walk this out. We looked at, the last program, we looked at the characteristics of a mentor. What the good characteristics of a mentor.

Now, we’re looking at the characteristics of a mentee, the one who’s receiving, the one who’s the son, if you’re like the spiritual son or the spiritual daughter and what their characteristics are like. What makes a good mentee? Really, we want to position ourselves as a good mentee. You want to position ourselves as someone who’s willing to receive. Praise God, receive from God and receive from others who have got our best interest in heart, who want… In their hearts, who wants to pour out to us. So, this is the characteristic of a mentee. We’ve already looked at, they’re ready to follow. A good mentee is ready to follow. Already looked at, they’re ready to serve. Now, we’re looking at, they’re humble and they’re actually teachable. Being humble and teachable. This reminds me of, sometimes people will come to an expert, ask them a question. Then, when the expert is giving them the answer, they’ll say, Oh, I know that. I know that. Oh, that’s what I thought.

Carlie: That happens to me a lot in the area of healing ministry. Actually, [inaudible] people in a prayer line situation that will come and then, they’ll tell me their problem. So, I began helping them and literally everything I say, every scripture I mentioned, I already know that. I already know, I’ve already done that. I mean, I’m not this unkind, but there is a fact here, okay? If you already know everything, then it should be working for you.

Ashley: Okay.

Carlie: If it’s working for you, if you already know everything, then and you’re not willing to listen to instruction and not just listen with your head, but listen with your heart, then there’s no point in submitting yourself to that input, in the first place.

Ashley: Right.

Carlie: These are pointless… It’s a futile conversation. So, there is a difference between listening with your head and listening with your heart. That comes from humility and saying things like, Oh, I already know, [inaudible]. Well, you don’t really know it. You might know it up here, but there’s a difference between knowing it in here and it becoming a revelation to us.

Ashley: That’s right, and really being humble is admitting that, you know what? I don’t know everything. I don’t know this area. I need help in this area.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: It’s actually esteeming others higher than yourself, in terms of saying, well, this person might be to help me. They know more than me in this area. That’s humility and really true humility isn’t about lowering yourself. [inaudible] So, true humility, just saying, well, I’m just, I’m nothing. Everything else. No, true humility is recognizing who you are in the Lord and who you really are. In the flesh, you are a mess. I don’t care how nice your flesh is. We went to one church, one time…

Carlie: Soundbite right there. Ashley says, in the flesh, you’re a mess.

Ashley: You could Twitter that. [crosstalk] You could tweet that out. You could tweet that one out. In the flesh, you’re a mess, but it’s true. In their flesh, I’m not talking about our nakedness. I’m talking about our flesh [crosstalk] like an old manner, unrenewed manner, the spirit in the flesh…

Carlie: Faith [crosstalk]… Praise God.

Ashley: Amen. So, I’m talking about in your flesh without Christ you’re nothing. I mean, it doesn’t matter how educated you are. I know Paul was a Hebrew of Hebrews. He was educated. He said, all my righteous works as but dung. Compared to the righteous of Christ. So, really in your flesh, you’re nothing, but you’re not in your flesh. If you’re born again, you’re in the spirit. You’re in Christ.

Carlie: Even without God.

Ashley: Amen. You’re in Christ and in Christ, you’re awesome. In Christ. First, John 4:17 says, as he is, so are you in this world. In Christ, you have everything you need. You’re completing him. Who’s the head of all principalities, Colossians 2:8, you’ve got everything you need [inaudible] You got everything you need, praise God, to live a life of godliness.

So, really the true you, praise God, is awesome, is power-packed. Amen. But, what we need to realize when we humble ourselves, we’re saying, you know what? I need help in this area. I need some wisdom. I need some, I need some revelation. I need some understanding in this area. So, I’m going to ask for it. I’ve got a teachable spirit. I want to be… I’ll always want to be teachable. I always want to be teachable. I remember having the privilege of meeting Peter J. Daniels and he’s in his eighties. Yes, he still had that teachable spirit, like he was willing to learn, but it’s amazing. This is one of the richest… He was at one time, the richest Australian in the world, literally. [inaudible] Australian. Richest Australian, I guess, in the world. Richest Australian.

But, anyway, he was the most [inaudible] he’s given away, literally billions of dollars to charities and to the body of Christ. But yet, he had this teachable spirit and I love that. So, let’s keep that teachable spirit. Let’s always be humble and always be ready to receive, not be a know it all. Oh, I know that I know this and if you have that attitude, that’s pride.

Carlie: Yeah, it is.

Ashley: And pride comes before a fall. That means that if you’ve got the attitude, if someone tries to warn you about something, you going to say, Oh, I already know that. You don’t receive it and you can end up falling down.

Carlie: You won’t have your ears to hear.

Ashley: You’ll end up falling down that hole, whatever it is they’re trying to warn you about. So, that’s been being proud. You want to be humble. We want to be teachable. We want to really make sure that we’re listening to when we get advice. When someone gives you advice, listen. You may not agree with it, but listen, and have that open spirit and say, Lord, is this for me? Do I need to take this on? Make sure you have a teachable spirit.

So, I’ve got a example of this is, we set up our ministry, Terradez Ministries. We opened an office in Africa. Terradez Ministries Africa. When we did that, we opened up in South Africa. We got to meet with one of the… If not the biggest ministry in the world.

Carlie: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Ashley: Their CEO of Africa met with us and they gave us advice on how to set up our ministry in Africa, because Africa is a different continent than North America or Europe. We have an office in Europe, North America, and Africa. Africa is a different continent, obviously than Europe and North America. So, there was different ways of doing things. Well, this person instructed us on what to do and they were in charge of one of the biggest ministries. Like I said, if not the biggest ministry in that continent. So, what an honor to have that. What did we do? We took their advice and did it. [crosstalk]

Carlie: [crosstalk] did it.

Ashley: And it worked. So, I’m telling you, be humble, be teachable. The fourth point I’ve got here is be honorable. I’m talking about honoring the mentor as they’re mentoring you. Honor them, honor their time. Honor their time, honor their advice, when they give you advice.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: Honor their relationship with you because really, as they’re pointing to you, you should be honoring them. Where it’s appropriate, I would give to them. I often give to my mentors, financially.

Carlie: Where you’ve been fed, then so.

Ashley: Amen. I got a friend who says, find the richest person you know, take them out for a six course dinner, so they can spend more time with them, and pay for everything. I remember somebody was saying, what? They’re rich, why shouldn’t they pay for dinner? No, you’re poor. You should be paying for the dinner because you need their advice. [crosstalk] Reached out to them.

Carlie: How they got there.

Ashley: Amen. When I’m going out with my… If I’m spending any time with my mentors, I’ll always pay for everything. I’m going to honor them. I often give them gifts, above that and beyond that, and that’s not bribery. That’s not any type of… [inaudible] clean because I’m receiving from them and it’s honorable to give back. They said, well, they don’t need your money. No, but it’s the honor you’re showing them, the Queen of Sheba came to meet with Solomon.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: She was one of the richest women in the world and Solomon was the richest man in the world. Yet, she gave him an offering and he gave her an offering. [crosstalk] Honor.

Carlie: [crosstalk] It wasn’t based on his needs.

Ashley: That’s right.

Carlie: It was based on honor and there’s different ways to honor your mentor. I mean, you need to honor their time. Honor their attention and be punctual.

Ashley: Amen.

Carlie: If you’re going to have a meeting, value somebody’s time. Show up. If you say you’re going to do something, follow through with it. These are quality… Good qualities. Being faithful, being honorable to the person, but also honorable to your word.

Ashley: Amen. [inaudible] If a mentor is talking to you, giving your undivided attention.

Carlie: Turn your cellphone off.

Ashley: Amen. Giving them your undivided attention is important. The last one I’ve got here is be willing to sacrifice. You know what? Be willing to sacrifice, be willing to deny yourself sometimes. When you’re following something, when you’re part of something bigger than yourself, when you’re going after something, when you’re putting yourself in this position, you’re going to have to be willing to sacrifice.

Jesus said, denying yourself, take up your cross and follow me. Really, it’s going to… Sometimes it’s going to take some self-denial. It’s going to take us making some sacrifices and [inaudible] I do these things because I want to do this instead. Maybe it’s time you stopped doing some mindless entertainment, whatever it is for you, television or social media or things like that, or games that aren’t really producing anything. Replace that time with reading a book about someone who’s successful or listening to good teaching or watching the Abundant Life Program. Praise God. But, something that’s going to build you up, rather than just do nothing for you.

Carlie: Yeah.

Ashley: It’s important. We can all be learning and have that teachable spirit and keep learning. So, but sometimes it takes a little bit of self-sacrifice.

Carlie: Yep. Take responsibility for our own education.

Ashley: Amen. The good thing is when we follow God, he’s always got good for us. So, when Jesus said, deny yourself, take up your cross and follow me, everything we give up, God’s going to multiply it back to us anyway.

Carlie: Amen.

Ashley: Even better. So, we never… We’re not losing out a tool. God’s only trying to get more to us.

Carlie: Amen.

Ashley: Praise God. So, there’s some of the characteristics of mentees.

Carlie: Let me ask you a quick question.

Ashley: Okay.

Carlie: You mentioned at the very beginning of this, [inaudible] there’s not like a, you don’t put an ad in the classified section, looking…

Ashley: Looking for a mentor.

Carlie: Yeah. Looking for a mentor. So, how can people go about that in a practical sense?

Ashley: Well, first of all, I would pray and make sure that you asking the Lord. The Lord is ultimately your mentor. He’s the one who’s going to teach you everything, through the word and through his Holy spirit. So, he should be the one you’re getting everything from, but he will use people, so pray and ask God, Lord, I want some divine. Give me a divine connection. Give me someone in my life that can help me. Then, you will need to serve. So, find someone to serve. A great way of getting a mentor is serving someone. Find someone you admire, who’s successful and go and serve that person. Praise God. Then, the third thing I’ve got here is how to find mentor is start, get started. You might say, actually, I don’t know anyone in my area. Well, pick up a book and go online, start listening to teachings of people you admire.

You don’t have to be face-to-face with them, right away, to get their teachings and catch their heart. Praise God. So, start listening to teachings. Start reading their books, start listening to their podcasts, whatever it takes and start today and let the Lord use people, praise God, to mentor you and to get you where you need to go. God wants to get everything good out of you, praise God, so that you can be… Everything God’s created you to be, Amen. Living a life of legacy, literally changing the world by living in life of legacy. This is going to go beyond you to the next generation, the next generation. Remember, the original scripture we read out. First of all, I’m going to read this again before we pray for you. That is, second Timothy 2:2, and the things that you’ve heard from me and among many witnesses commit these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.

This is living a life of legacy. This is you being mentored and then, mentoring someone else and that person mentoring someone else. This is how the gospel spreads and this is how the love of God spreads. Amen.

Carlie: Amen.

Ashley: Praise God. We’d love to pray for you before we go. Father God, I thank you for everyone watching today. I thank you that you have good things for them. I thank you that ultimately, that you’re our father and you are teaching us and you are guiding us and [inaudible] receive your guidance, in Jesus name. We love you. We thank you, that you love us. We thank you only have good for us and Lord today, we receive everything good you have for us. In Jesus name. Amen.

Carlie: Amen.

Ashley: Well, you are empowered, praise God, to live out… The good life. [crosstalk] do that again. Can I switch to that again [inaudible]?

Carlie: Yeah.

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